I have a question my H I believe doesn't wear his wedding ring but when he comes over I will notice that its not on and if I go out of room etc when I come back it's on. My question is why does he bother to put it on if only for me. In the past I have asked where his wedding g ring was if I noticed he didn't have it on and he said it was too big. He has lost weight and ring does slide right off his finger but has has made a show of putting it back o. And saying he took it off for work because it falls off. I quit asking or mentionin it the Las couple of times that I noticed he wasn't wearing it only to find when I came back in room it would mysteriously be on. My positive spin on this is at least he cares enough of what I think to put it on but I also think he is represent himself as unmarried outside of this. Any thoughts.
Maybe...but it's a question you already asked and already decided, did not matter. Try to catch yourself when you get repetitive or go backwards on your path.
Plus it's another question that has no definitive answer...and therefore, it isn't a question you should spend a ton of energy wondering.
Besides, what answer would be a "good" one for you? That he cares enough to fake wear it around you? Okay...but
In time, you could spin that as him being dishonest...so you could morph it into a negative.
OR you could say his fake wearing is actually insulting your intelligence b/c you obviously notice it...
OR you could decide he's doing it intentionally, just to confuse/torture you since he knows you stare at his ring finger a lot...b/c you have frequently commented on it in the past...
OR you could not care a whit about IF or WHY he's wearing or not wearing a piece of jewelry that actually is too big for him
AND you could GAL and DETACH
and then you'd bring a whole lot more to the table than an obsessive woman who is constantly asking herself (or her h) R questions with no "good" answers.
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