So many nice comments - thanks everyone PigPen, WBM, Bob, Fogg, Toots, UTurn, Matt and others. Thank you for taking the time to post on my pathetic thread.
Yes, I let my reactions get the best of me and I am not proud of it. Speaking of love languages, Yes, I have read that book many times. I am pretty sure my W love language is touch, so I gave her foot rubs and back scratches all the time, maybe not every time she wanted one, but many many times.
Claification point - if I am such an uncaring, vindictive and emotionless drudge why does she want to be friends with me?
Lessons learned:
1. Do not get sucked into R dialogue 2. Do not react to whatever she says, respond calmly 3. Try to view this is an observer viewing like a 3d person 4. Ignore half of what they say 5. More GAL which will lead to more detachment
