Hi Heavy, I'm sorry to hear about the difficult convo. It sounded like you responded pretty well in difficult circumstances. It does illustrate though how having R convos with someone in an active A just isn't a great idea. I don't believe any single convo makes or breaks chances of R. But it sure messes with our heads.

You know already that someone in affair fog will say things that are just bonkers, and because of this it is best not to run it all over in your mind. Best if you can try and look at it like another person on this board would - yep, I just came into contact with a pile of affair fog verbiage...

But none of this is a huge surprise. We know people in affairs do this. So, I would observe and accept what just happened, chalk it down to (horrible) experience and move forward. I do think you are doing really well in difficult circumstances.

Take care ((((Heavy)))

Last edited by Toots; 06/06/15 08:33 PM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

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