Heard the same myself around BD. "It wouldn't be fair/set a bad example for D4 to see us in a loveless M", but being the side chick for some younger guy and running away/giving up on M commitment is?
People naturally see the side of things they want to see and rationalize their perspective. Even the LBS does, it's human nature and the fog ups those thoughts.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
