hold on! - 10

[u-turn]

Thanks Bravo,
S21 ended up coming over unannounced on Wednesday after my IC. I accommodated him and his gf for dinner (along with d15 and two friends, and S17). It was nice and fun - but W actually ate separately from all of us and s17 went to eat with her - feeling sorry for her. S21 asked to borrow money for rent (apartment that he's still paying for at school which he dropped out of). After a long talk with him (with W), I said I would help him. W wants him to move back home and S21 asked if he and his gf can move in because their current situation is not healthy. Privately I told S21 that the home that W wants him to come home to is not what he thinks it is - I did let him know that his mom and I haven't really spoken in months. S21 knows it is bad - he is still worried about me and my health. I assured him that I am fine and we will all be fine, but he may not want to rush into coming back home right now.

I really don't want him worrying about me. that is not his responsibility.

I told W that we need to figure out our path before we decide what to do about s21 moving back.

She agreed, but no conversation has happened (and no family counseling either).

Thank you Painter - I had a short meeting with an attorney to get some information. He is leaving for a week, but we have a couple hours blocked out early the following week to review everything. It is a scary step, but liberating as well. I just want everything to be fair and as good as possible for the kids. I also don't want to be an a-hole, but that will probably be the perception.

W & I cannot come together to even discuss anything at this point. We each leave the room when the other enters. W spewed at me about this, but she is also doing the same thing.

I wish the L was around and I could proceed quicker - I do have some clarity now (as I have written on zues' thread)

Thanks for everyone's support