Good post, Lisa. 76, it's not easy sharing painful memories, but that is one of the reasons these folks here are so supportive. They either have been in those shoes or experiencing it now.

I hope you will stick with us, b/c you need people who understand what you are going through. FWIW, after I ended my A, it was a long time before I wanted any love making with my H. It took months to get OM out of thoughts, especially at night b/c that is when things would get quite and still. Without the help I was receiving from the board, there is no telling how long it would have continued.

It can happen, and the two of you can have a healthy MR again.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!