I think you should definitely subscribe to the daily e-mails from Charlayne Cares because that's the SECOND TIME IN A ROW that what you wrote was answered on the SAME DAY YOU WROTE IT...God bless,
Gerda
Thanks for your encouragement Gerda. I have signed up for both of the daily emails.
An update. I spoke to W last week to let her know that I lost my job. She listened but was distracted. As soon as I hung up I saw why. She quickly texted me with a suggestion for dealing with child support.
W let me know that she continues to be sick, and last week went thru 3 hours of tests at the hospital. She is having a difficult time breathing, cannot keep any food down (I suggested she eat some meat instead of her recently baked quinoa (vegetable) cookies - she laughed.) She was also very disappointed that after not being able to eat for a week and a half, she only lost a half pound. (smile.)
The tests came back and besides a uti, everything else was related to stress. Interestingly, she told her doctor that her stress is tied into the stress I was having b/c of the loss of a job. She did say that it was her "ex-husband's" stress though we are still married. Whatever.
When I picked up s13 on Thursday after his last day of school, W gave me a hug. She called me "love". We spoke for a bit about d17's end of her high school career. Everything was all pleasant and good. Then she stepped out into the hallway with me, and had a question about the child support and life insurance. Hmm, extra nice if she wants something from me. It is so clear to me now.
I understand the stress about finances she is facing. She has still not received the decent state tax refund (which was supposed to be sent several weeks ago), now the possibility of waiting for child support, and it all is out of her control. Although I no longer have the desire to try and fix this for her, I still feel sympathy/empathy even after 2 years of separation.
