Hi Mozza, thank you for all the insights! Wow. You've given me a lot to think about!
And I love your quote in your signature. Sometimes I feel like everything is a disaster in my life in the most chaotic moments. It's good to think that success might follow!
I tend to have the opposite approach to online dating that you do. I am not afraid to get rid of those who do not interest me. In fact I may be too ruthless but as I said before I am pretty sure of what I do not want, even if I am still finding out what I do want.
I like what you said about finding shapes that fit. Maybe it is a bad attitude but sometimes I feel like I might never find a shape that fits me. I'm very social and meet many people each week. And yet I rarely meet anyone who strikes my fancy.
As I said, I am inspired by your example Mozza and I'm trying to get out of my comfort zone and be more proactive. So far it has not been easy. I find myself getting discouraged. When I approach someone and they don't respond enthusiastically I feel rejected and then I just want to throw in the towel and become a hermit. I know in my heart I am giving up too easily but there is a strong part of me that is trained to think that if I, as a woman, have to pursue the man - that it will never work out. This keeps me from making contact and following up. I am great at this in my social and business life - but terrible at it with my dating life.
Lately I have been trying to be more proactive. If I meet a man I like, I might send him a message and ask if he wants to meet. Or maybe just start a flirty chat online on the dating sites. But so far it doesn't seem to go anywhere. And then, I feel worse than I did if I had done nothing. I feel rejected.
I'm not stupid. I know logically that if one or two men didn't respond it is not the end of the world. That maybe it has nothing to do with me, or maybe he has other things going on right now. Or maybe he just doesn't like me but that's ok. Logically I know this, but I am having a hard time picking myself back up. I don't even care about these individuals. I just don't hate this feeling of rejection.
Maybe I am not ready for this dating stuff.
But in my head I keep thinking of how brave you are Mozza, and trying to be inspired by your adventures and experiments!
