RD Movin on 7

[rd500]

Thanks.Toots your support means a lot. You could never offend me as I know you are always coming from the right place

Take care. Rd xx

[rd500]

Hi all. Thanks for the support. It's helping me through a really tough time. EXW came to the gates today to collect D11. She asked D11 if she was welcome in the house anymore and D11 told her she didn't know but S20'and S16 did not want to see her at the moment.

EXW took D11 out for a couple of hours and they had an ok time. D11 told EXW that she should change jobs and EXW told her she was thinking about it. EXW then told D11 that OM was just a friend and EXW didn't know why she kept him as a friend as he was an alcoholic and quite abusive when he was drunk. EXW went onto say OM was seeing a councelllor to try and get help. D11 told EXW that she hoped OM burnt in hell !!!!!! EXW laughed and said he was just a friend who took her mind off her problems and he wasnt anymore than that

I am disappointed at EXW because she shouldn't have spoke to D11 about OM but I think the text has her in a spin.

Haven't heard from EXW today and don't expect to EXW spoke to D14 last night and told her she was going to change her life and try to get to see L/C

I didn't really sleep last night and thought long and hard about my sitch. I think EXW is lost but has clung onto OM because he was the opposite to me and never judged her. She seems to not be thinking straight and I think my NC approach will help me detach.

SIL text me a few times last night and she was very very supportive She thinks EXW is in mental breakdown of some sort

Thanks for reading Take care. Rd

[Bob723]

I am disappointed at EXW because she shouldn't have spoke to D11 about OM but I think the text has her in a spin.

Hello Buddy!

I have bearly been logged in all week, but I caught up with your sitch.

You have every right to be disappointed with EXW, I would be, too.

When is the RD sleepy friends event happening? Have fun with that RD!

I've been thinking about you and will say a prayer for you right after I submit this post.

Chin up, my man!

Bob

[rd500]

Thanks Bob. Your a gentleman. Take care. Rd

[Bob723]

You're so welcome, Rd. I dedicated a very special prayer to you.

Thanks for the post in my thread. You rock!

Bob

[HeavyD]

You are the nicest man Bob.

[Vanilla]

Toots, I always seem to follow you and agree!

RD, WW is temp checking, over and over.

If you can block her texts, I do this with H or I get streams of texts asking which box the wart or haemorrhoid cream is in.

Guys, the sleep pile friend thing is today at 8pm starting 9pm Irish time. So if you are in for a friend sleep pile, just say so.

The Pedro and cheese are brought by V.

Onesies optional but I am coming in my banana onesie.

Sounds like we start with Toots and V. Pink clearly approves too. Seems Bob would like a cheesecake style sleepover.

Anyone else for a friend sleep pile of Hugs? All you need to do is post to RD that you are a sleepile friend.

V

[rd500]

Hi all. First thanks to Pink and Toots who turned up for the sleep party. !!!! Sorry the rest of you decided not to turn up especially Vanillia !!!

Got a text from EXW first thing saying she would not be thrown out of her home and I had no right to do so !! I didn't respond. She then called and said could she speak to D11. I explained that D11 was in the shower and EXW started to spew about she was all on her own with no one and I should be the one out of the house not her. She said kids all blamed her for the seperation while in reality it was both our faults. I validated but this did not go down well. She started on about how we had had two more kids than she wanted and it was all my fault.
I didn't answer this.

I did explain that she was not banned from the house but D14 had asked her by text and phone not to come to the house for a few weeks S20 and S16 had supported D14 in this

It seems that EXW is back on the angry train and its full steam ahead against RD

I don't know if it's because of EXWs text to OM or my telling EXW that we could not be friends while she's with OM. Either way she is venting big time toda

Thanks again. Toots and Pink. Take care. Rd

[Sotto]

RD, thanks for the slumber party...glad you liked my giraffe onesie! Sorry to hear you are coming in for some criticism from your W. That must be hard to take, given all the circumstances. My take is that:

Your kids are hardening their position towards your W
She continues to fail to see the impact of her behaviour and choices, or take full responsibility for them
She's thinking - why should he get to stay when I had to leave?
She's fed up of RD being 'good cop' & she 'bad cop.'
So she wants to remind you that you were 'bad cop' sometimes too. This helps shift some of the guilt she feels

Can I ask what happened with the validating? You said that didn't help?

Take care RD....there's a lot going on for you just now.....slow & steady....

((((RD)))))

[Vanilla]

I m here for the sleep party, hot chocolate at the ready.

V