"I've been pondering the same thing...am I just in a fog, my W has clearly moved on with her life in every possible way but legally."
No. You just believe in something that's different than your W and are taking action towards what you believe. The fog is different. It includes the re-writing of history to justify an action.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
