Does anyone have some good links/examples of what to say/do at the moment that WW is sobbing and bawling on your shoulder, telling you (again) that she ended her EA, apologizing for it ever happening, begging for forgiveness, etc? Because that just happened.
I didn't know what to do. She told me the same thing last weekend, but clearly over the next couple of days it became apparent that she hadn't really ended it and was just pissed off that I was about to file for D and had talked to an attorney.
Last night, after she admitted that they had kissed again and still say I love you, I told her we needed to sit down and go over visitation, custody, etc. (This on the advice of my attorney) We need to do this before I can move out. I told her my plan was to decide these things, and then talk to my parents about moving home this weekend. She stormed off and went to bed.
Then, no real conversation this morning, and we went to work. I talked to my L again today by phone, and she suggested me trying to stay in the house until we sit and come to a written agreement on a substantial number of things.
Then, I came home from work, was playing with D2 and W came home around 7. She walked in, grabbed a cigarette and said she needed to go outside.
When she came in, she hugged me (I made sure to let go first), and then she said "today, I reversed what I never should have started in the first place. I'm so so sorry and I know it will take time, but please forgive me. You sounded so serious last night about moving out and ending this."
I wanted to say: "Of course I'm serious. You lied to me AGAIN!" But I didnt.
I just told her I needed time to digest this, and that I really didn't want to talk in front of D2.
