Thanks for sharing sandi. I'm hoping the fog lifts for my W, I think she's still living a lie to her family, but like it says in DB, I can't worry about her. If she for some reason takes blame where does that put us? I know I have to focus on me and my attitude/behavior.

I guess I'm still open to MC because I'm hoping my W still has a seed of doubt about D and she's just willing to go to see what happens. she has said some things that make me thing she still has her doubts. I'm honestly nervous about not going if she's willing, maybe this is a mistake on my part, but curiosity would kill me if I didn't go and see.

So update on the detachment and GAL; she sent the text about my D2 just a general text and I didn't respond and then she later texted if I had plans with my D2 tonight and I said I wasn't sure we were invited to dinner but not sure if I was going. I got home and she asked again: I just said we were going to a friends house and she said I didn't just have to say "a friends...what is their name?" And I just brushed it off and said you don't know them. And she asked if they were from work. I said no, there will he people there from work but the girls house we are going to isn't from work.. I wish I would have politely said she's given up the right to know those details but I'm still somewhat satisfied about my response. She then said it was weird I've been out doing so much, she said you've been out doing more in past 2 weeks than you have in past 7 years and I just said "I can see how that would be weird for you" it's very satisfying knowing she notices this. That isn't my motivation, but nevertheless it is satisfying

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Me: 32 Her: 29
M: 5 T: 11
D2
ILYBINILWY: Jan 15
BD: 2/13/15 (I found out, she didn't tell me)
W filed for D after I confronted OM 5-27-15
Papers served 6-3-15
Temporary Order 7-15-15
W Moved out 7-17-15