Gang, What would be a good DB caliber verbal response to STBX when she says that she misses me? Or she might say something like, "Don't you miss me?"
Answers:
1. Well, when you say you miss me, what do you really mean? Let her carry on explaining what all she misses about you while you listen.
2. Well, is it just my friendship you miss?
3. Yes, I very much miss our family.
4. I miss seeing you smile and the way your eyes use to sparkle when you looked at me.
5. Should I miss you? You haven't been particular nice to me this year. It's been rather hurtful for me to share too much with you especially when I am fearing getting served divorce papers on a daily basis, so I apologize if "missing you" hasn't been at the top of my mind. I've shared too much, I'm sorry to get so heavy with you, "yes, I very much miss our family and you", "I've had second thoughts as well" and I'd like to give our marriage another shot under certain conditions. That was more honest. Can't we just go __________ and have some fun. This is making me uncomfortable. I don't feel safe around you. [because you aren't.....she's been abusing you emotionally all year so backing off is prudent]. If pressed...we can talk about conditions and stuff later, really if we both just promise each other not to file for divorce this month right now, I'm fine with that TODAY and we'll talk more about what that means and how we go about other issues later. OK? Come on...let's see that smile. Tell me more about how much you miss me [wink}? Go back to listening. Asking questions. Sharing little.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
