Are you divorced?? Your tag line does not indicate that.
I think I am beginnning to fall in line with your thinking. The writing is on the wall. I too thought there is no way my wife could do this, but she did, over and over.
However I have grown as a person, become stronger, more connected to God and more connected to my kids. Those are great outcomes from this experience.
Maybe that is the yin and yang of this experience.
They always say insight comes through pain. I tend to agree with that at this point.