Tell me again what is the purpose for dragging this out? Originally the plan was for me to GAL, get strong, get to a better place emotionally, physically and spiritually which I have. It was also for her to think about what she really wanted and what her life would be without me and 50% reduction of her time with our children.
After all of that - 8 months later she is adament that she wants to divorce me, is very angry still, and is just ready to get it over with. All of this is of course hard to digest and live with. She stil claims that her affair has nothing to do with our split and is just a coincidence and only illustrates how broken our marriage was.
I talked to my lovely kids this morning and they were happy to talk to me and I told them that I would see them in a few days.
As for W, I don't talk to her (unless about kids), text her nor am I giving her any assistance with divorcing me. She again is angry that I have gotten an attorney. She our angry that I won't respond or react to her. She just says that it personifies our "comunication problems", thus justifying her reasons to divorce me more.
It just feels like this fight is getting intensified and more and more contentious, which makes me sad and not what I want. She is insistent she is in love with her AP.
I am at a work conference and me two women who were left by their husbands for affairs. Both of the husbands married their AP and their marriages have lasted for 20-30 years. Wow, most of the literature I have read state that these AP marriages don't last long due to various reasons, being built on deceit, etc...
Both of the women said it was hard for the first few years and then they got over it. Both women remarried and say they are happier with their new marriages, that it was a better fit. I will note that their marriages were not 20 years like mine was 8-10 year range for both of them.
Maybe I will be OK with my new normal, my post divorce life and the new improved me. Food for thought for me. Maybe this is the acceptance phase I have entered.
