Oh, V. I am so sorry. We used to say about my father, some people, have no bottom to hit. I am sorry that your H's ailments fell away also. I do understand how it all burns. I really do.
I'm learning that abusers do not often have any idea that they are abusing and manipulating. It is as natural as breathing air. Most of them do indeed see themselves as victims. And every choice afterwards is justified.
Maybe this dear lady would have wanted you to know what she went through. You never know if she's been watching over you all along.
V, you have shone so bright during some very dark days. Imagine when the sun really is shining for you. I cannot wait!
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
