There's being detached and then there's being rude (I know, not nearly as rude and hurtful as your wife's recent choices but her behavior doesn't control your behavior)
She's still your wife.
She's chasing/pursuing you which is what you want. She'll stop such if you don't dance with her.
You just need to listen to her. Ask questions. Listen some more.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
