Why can't I just be a man and move on, at least for now.
I don't really understand what you're going for here. We can't move on until we've healed ourselves of the damage that our S's have done to us. If you break your arm, you have to wait until the bone sets and heals before you can use it again. It's the same here. We have the tools to help us mend faster, but ultimately, it takes making it through days/weeks/months to become the whole person we used to be. It isn't about being "a man", it's about going through the right healing process, so that when we love again, it can be without the fear, the hesitation, the pain of what we are going through now holding us back.
I know it hurts. Lord, do I know. But rushing the process only gets you to the end faster - it doesn't make it any easier.
