Starsky has a truth dart that use to hit me so hard when I showed up on the board as a WW. "All cheaters lie".
As much as you want to believe what she says, you would do well to remember that truth dart. There have been many WW's who would deny the hard evidence staring her in the face.
There are some women who continue having sex with the LBH even while she's conducting an A. However, it is my belief that most women will desire to be intimate with only one man, and if she has that one man in her head, then she's simply going through the motion with the other one. It's true that some who are in an EA will have sex with the H (he is substituted for OM) b/c she can fantasize that H is whoever she wants him to be. I think the majority of WW's have no desire to even go through the motions with her H. That is how most women are designed. She has emotionally divorce you and made you the outsider. In her heart/mind she has replaced you with OM.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
