I found that interesting, and it made me think of our WAS's. I always assumed they were in a fog so thick they couldn't see out of it. Now I'm realizing it's possible they do get the entire sitch better than we think, but they don't want to have to let go of the addiction.
I think there is merit to this. It is easier to believe in the fog as some mystical addiction than simply attribute it to another possible reality. They are feeling "in love" and they probably haven't felt that way in a long time. They are conflicted at the same time so act irrationally. We are poised to pick up on every irrationality, and often bear the brunt of tirades. It isn't illogical at all. Move towards what makes them feel better, or stay with what makes them feel bad.
I think addiction is another lines issue, as is life basically. So I'm addicted to exercise (I wish). I need it everyday. But this is a healthy addiction right. So it is for them too. Addiction has -ve connotations of unhealthy, out of control, compulsive behaviour.
Maybe they are right. To them it certainly appears to be the best way forward. We disagree, or at least we don't want it, but how much of this is just hurt. In hindsight I'm sure well look back at this episode in our lives (whatever the outcome), as simply a logical progression of steps. Nothing more.
I am just glad to be off the Uber-peaky-Ultra-Highspeed roller coaster, and down to the kiddies version where in between peaks I can see the future.
i dont know which direction i want to or will leave in, but this ride aint done yet
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
