I am going to give this some more thought .. pray on it .. possibly pull the eject handle this weekend. I will hold onto the check till Monday just to buy myself time to really think about this. Regardless we will have to have a talk Saturday concerning it all ... I know R talks are typically frowned upon but I am at the point ... its time to know where this is headed and what W is expecting out of it all .... without making it feel like pressure as she is about to crack I can feel it. Easy right?
Let's put the brakes on this train of thought. I sense that you're getting antsy pantsy and want to know a ballpark on which direction W is heading on respect to the M. I think it will be very deterimental to the gains you've made with W over the past several weeks. Here's a tall glass of STFU Smoothie from the Happy Days countertop from yer pal, Arnold.
Right now, it is crucial that W gets the support from you given her recent lay-off from the company. By initiating R talks, you're just pouring a gallon of kersone on W's plate. Smart? I think not.
As for Retrouaville, I have a different view here. Unlike uR and Job, I think it would be beneficial for the two of you as it focuses primarily on communication approaches. There have been times when it seems that you talk past each other. By atteneding those sessions, all outside distractions will recede in the background. One big benefit I see in this is that Retrouaville will open W's eyes that all marriages have their own unique set of challenges and there may be some couples there who are much worse off than the Calis.
If I were you, I'd approach W from a cooperative standpoint and ask her open ended questions about her thoughts on attending Retrouaville given the recent changes in her job status and possibly added stressors from the event. You would want to make it a joint venture that each partner gets a say in this decision-making process.
