Job ... uR .. you know I agree and seem to be like a cat getting baptized with this all. Thinking about it, I have the check and the envelope I figured I would just talk to her Saturday (As we drive to BIL's party) and let her know I just feel with all she has on her plate this might not be a great time .. I do know she will fire back with not wanting limbo any longer ... seems to be her current battle cry.
I decided to try a small 180, I TM her today out of the blue .. just a simple "How ya doin?" she was pretty chatty letting me know all the things she has accomplished. Also shared she is emotional as the PMS arrived in the mail ... explains the tears this morning.
I validated and gave her praise ... seems I am practicing on my teenage parenting skills, that tactic seems to work with her at the moment. She brought up the Retrouville weekend, asked for the contact info so she could confirm the dietary restrictions ... TM back that all was good, told me she wanted to take S early since she is out of work to BIL2's get out of town and clear her head.
Worst case I am out $200 ... spend the weekend learning how to communicate better, I have anxiety that as you all agree ... she is not ready, but I do not think I can convince her of that either ... it almost feels like a sabotage .. 'i tried' mission. I am going to give this some more thought .. pray on it .. possibly pull the eject handle this weekend. I will hold onto the check till Monday just to buy myself time to really think about this. Regardless we will have to have a talk Saturday concerning it all ... I know R talks are typically frowned upon but I am at the point ... its time to know where this is headed and what W is expecting out of it all .... without making it feel like pressure as she is about to crack I can feel it. Easy right?
