I feel like ive been a doormat to much and now she is just taking advantage,
2. If you feel like a doormat, then there's a good chance you've filled the position. A WW will take advantage, even of the toughest guys. That is how she thinks and operates.
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i am falling apart and just trying to hold myself togather.
3. Then don't confront yet. Don't discuss anything with her until you can control your own emotions.
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should i expose to everyone and let everyone know i still want to work on my M.
4. I don't think you are ready for any moves such as that. You are desperate and wanting to do something to shock sense into her. However, you likely will kick it into higher gear if you go at this unprepared.
1. I do not want her to leave, i love my wife, i have made that known and want to work on things. I just read other place if the A is still ongoing, there can be no improvement to the M until that stops. I do not want her to leave, and you are probably right, i would have even more pain because at least when she is here, i know where she is so my mind can calm down and not be dreading.
2. Your absolutely right, which is why im trying to change then and 'man back up'. Obviously cheating on me is unacceptable and disrespectful. I have come out of the delusion i was i and i do see the gravity and what im dealing with now...
3. i am able to control my emotions, i do have moments and fall apart when im alone, which i thought was healthy? But i can carry a conversion with her while staying calm like the one i mentioned before. While the content was apparently bad, i was very calm about it, even after she flamed on me
4. you are probably right, i do want to shock her back into reality, but i understand what your saying and i guess there is no way to do that right now which wont make things worse
