So now that W has been put on notice that it's going to be the L route, is that a good thing or a bad thing? Part of me thinks it is sending a strong message to her not to freak with me, the other part of me is worried that this will only serve to push her further away and make her more resolute in the divorce.
I replied to W - L is out of town, and returns next week, I will talk to him then about the process. I honestly can't deal with her emotionaly now.
As you know - she peppers me with texts both demanding that I talk to her, and then sending text photos of the kids. I have not replied to any of the texts as I am just too upset by recent turn of development. It seems that when I ignore her texts she comes unhinged, when I respond she becomes a tasmanian devil.
I will talk to L upon his return next week - Monday if possible. He will communicate with her.
Why did it surprise you that W threw in the guilt statement "I wish things didnt have to be this way" and the jibe about "not having a voice". Those were just things to hurt me and to manipulate me to respond to her texts.
The comment "After 20 years of poor communication...My God,,, why do you call all the shots". That theme is a constant refrain with her.
I am currently out of town and drinking a large pitcher of STFU Smoothie.
