I did just read your threads on a new LBH and it helped make me see im not alone. I appear to have fallen right into the trap of most things you say will 'happen'and need to stop in order to turn things around.
When it comes to exposing, it something part of me thinks could work because she is so secretive and very religious, although not acting like it. I dont know how i can look at her knowing this happened and pretend its ok when she comes home and tries to me all nice, or make small talk. I been trying to DB for a couple months for as many of the list as i can, but obviously keep having setbacks, or the timing wasn’t right for stuff as i think it would have been perceived to make things worse. I feel without letting her know i 'know about her cheating" my actions will just be seen as standoffish or ignoring her for no reason and since 'lack of affection' was an issue, she my think ive fallen back to old habits or i just dont care?
During our last talk, she got made when I let her know “im not stupid and im sick of being treated like a fool and disrespected”. I then brought up the religious aspect, and as I have been reading about it more as a way of improving myself since she had wanted me to show more interested, I said I looked up in the bible (something she strongly believes in) what is mentioned about marriages and infidelity. She went crazy, and yelled for a couple minutes “don’t bring God into this…etc” and said “I’m Done”, so I left her alone to think. She then came to bed and still kissed me goodnight, and then acted ok the next morning… this was the day before I actually found the proof of the A. She cares deeply about her image also so I didn’t know if that could be used, at least so people she has been lying about me and the real issue too, which is mostly why im wondering? She is making me out to be the bad guy only…
