Detachment should be the same whether it's a man or woman and the same for people in affairs.
As for your h thinking you are mad at him...well, that's his guilt coming to the surface. Of course, he's going to think you are mad at him because he knows that if you had done this to him, he would have been furious. He's really trying to figure out where your head is at and what you do know.
Actually you don't have to tell him that you are moving forward with or without him. Actions speak louder than words.
Detaching can be applied to any situation. I don't recall if you've read the Detachment thread or not, but I'm posting the link below.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
