Kembo - what I mean is that your W probably thinks she gave an "honest effort" before the A. It's not like she tripped and found herself in bed with another man. Surely, she weighed your M carefully and decided it was best for her. So there's no point in expecting her to give any effort for at NOW. What's different from before the A?
You need to take the time and implement the changes for you. That way if she realizes she does want to be M to you, that you can be in a position to make it work.
