I thought the same about my W. But I've come to realize that it isn't the quantity of time with my girls that's important, it's quality of time. They were getting 30-50% parenting from both of us all the time. I've learned to become an 80-90% parent all of the time that I'm with them. I recommend you keep looking for ways to make your time with your D as meaningful as possible.
As for your W, I wouldn't waste your energy judging her and her actions. Just because it doesn't appear to you that's she's given an honest effort doesn't mean that she hasn't. I wouldn't focus on the what ifs and the whys. Instead focus on the how and there is a lot you can learn. Implement the changes to you. You never know how W will react.
