My story pt 2

[Kembo05]

Well she officially filed for D. I got the papers served to me yesterday. I knew it was coming, but nothing could have prepared me for that moment. We met individually with our marriage counselor before I knew I was getting the papers served to me and my W and I spoke afterwards and she told me she had filed but she wanted to come back; not with a plan or hope of reconciliation but more to learn how to communicate with each other so we can be civil with our daughter after the divorce. I spoke with the counselor afterwards and he said it seems like she is done, she said she feels like we have grown into her parents and we have an unemotional relationship and she doesn't think I can give her what she needs emotionally. He also said she is basing her decisions on feelings, not facts or with her head. I'm sure it is cliché but I don't get it; I don't get how she can destroy our family without even giving our marriage a real shot. There was some talk about OM, and I still believe he is out of the pic but I'll have to catch everyone up on that later today.

She also brought up me being gone and taking my D2 out to see friends (detaching and GAL). I told her I was just making plans and we were invited to stuff. She started to cry and said it was hurtful because we never did stuff like that before. I replied by saying I was always so complacent just being at home with her, now that things have changed I just have to do what I think is best for me and my D2.

I feel so hopeless at this point. the DB came in the mail last night and I read some of it. but it's just tough when there doesn't even seem to be a light in this tunnel its just darkness.

When she told me she was filing she said she wanted to do what is best for our D2, but in her temporary order application she wants me to leave the house and I only get to see my D2 every other weekend and on Wednesday evenings. I don't see how that is best for my D2.

Some words of hope and encouragement would really help me out right now. If you believe in the power of prayer, I ask for that too.