Write and Deb--Of course you may borrow my short term goals! Stealing them is okay too!
Deb, the Bob Barker is a term that we came up with a couple months ago. You will find it mentioned in my previous threads as well as Meredith's. Basically, Bob is encouraging and happy and doesn't let grumpy and negative people change his attitude toward them or anyone else.
He's the life of the party--full of enthusiasm and accepting people and situations for what they are--and he always roots for everyone to win. Who could hate Bob Barker (except for Happy Gilmore)?
Something funny happened when Meredith and I started acting like Bob. Our depressed/withdrawn spouses started to smile. And before too long, they adopted Bob's mannerisms with us. It caught both of us off guard.
Bob isn't a long term answer to any problem, but often we all tend to get too down about life and someone needs to be the party person. We elect to be that person when the sitch calls for Bob's appearance.
Please feel free to read back, because we also addressed the times where Bob shouldn't be invited to the party. He has an off button....
Just keep swimming!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
