Your husband needs to realize he is making a mistake. He is romanticizing this relationship with this other woman, and it looks like it does to him because it's an affair.
If he breaks the affair, and we all know that means you cut off all contact, and open transparency, he will feel some guilt and pain and lose any feelings of "power" he felt he gained by being able to have multiple partners, he will go thru some pain, but it will be much less than the pain he is putting you thru.
It will also be much less than the pain he will feel after you have left and he comes to grips he basically broke up his family over sex outside the household.
He's gotta understand this is a position millions upon millions have been in and it's nothing special.
If he ever loved and adored you before the affair, he needs to break it off completely and cleanly. He's hurting his wife and hurting his family and hurting himself too!
