No Ripken, LBS's don't rewrite history as all good. They desperately cling to their M out of co-dependency for a while, they commit themselves to looking in the mirror and doing whatever they need to for the M to be saved...until they realize they can't control the outcome and get what they want (R) when they want it...then they get resentful and start refocusing on the WAS's current bad behavior, then as they detach and don't "need" the M anymore they refocus on their grievances in the M, their spouse's shortcomings (in the form of psychological diagnosis), then they decide their spouse was the failure, their M stunk, and they are lucky to be rid of their ex because they never would've been happy anyway. Yet they insist that they've grown as people and somehow have the moral high ground AND are better prepared for their next M.
At least that's the "LBS script", and it's followed as closely as the WAS script.
True - but i'd like to point out that "script" wrongly carries connotations of rehearsed, predictable, and even untrue. Rather I believe it simply a "generalisation". A generalization is NOT bad or untrue it is a neutral statement of what is factually, generally true in the majority of cases.
The statistically safe bet is that the WAS genuinely feels the way she describes at the time. Generally they dont turn back on this as it would have all sorts of repercussions personally. The LBS has no other choice than to move on as you describe. None of this is bad or wrong, it is simply how human mating rituals play out. Attenborough could do a doco on it.
M: 6 T: 12 Kids: 2,4 BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015 EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015
