CeMar: One time, I printed out the Emotional Needs questionnaire out and my H and I took it together. First, I was surprised that he agreed to take a relationship test with me but that was not the biggest surprise, oh noooooooo.
His #1 need? Physical touch! I never would have guessed that. Of course, his physical touch is non-sexual and mine is definitely sexual but I felt that we had gotten away from touching each other at all because he interpreted my touches wrong and I didn't want to touch him knowing it wouldn't go anywhere. So we were both depriving the other of our greatest need. Ironic huh!
I'm not suggesting that this will be the case with you and your wife; I'm merely saying that for you to "guess" what her needs are in your marriage is downright disrespectful. You might be right and you might be wrong.
So why not find out? I presented it to my husband by saying that I needed to know his needs so that I could be a better wife. Even though I could have predicted most of what they would be anyway. I needed the reminder of what is important to him, just as much as he needed it.
