They desperately cling to their M out of co-dependency for a while, they commit themselves to looking in the mirror and doing whatever they need to for the M to be saved...until they realize they can't control the outcome and get what they want (R) when they want it...
This is definitely me. I'm only 2 months in, so my basis for this is minimal, but I have to agree with Z that this portion seems to be widely the same across most threads I've read on here at the time immediately following BD.
What happens from that point on I think is much more situational. For me personally, I dont see myself ever blaming my W for this, or thinking she was the cause, or that I would never have been happy anyway.
Perhaps at this point it's no longer a script per se, but more of a flow chart. One path has the LBS taking responsibility for their own faults and bettering themselves, GAL, 180, etc, and the other path has the blame being passed to the WAS and presumably no meaningful personal growth occurring moving forward?
Abuse is the exception here of course. Abuse seems to be the exception to most things DB...
Me:36 W:30 M:2.75 T:7 BD: 4/2015 ILYBNILWY: 5/2015 W Moved Out: 5/2015 W filed for D: 7/2015
