Thanks for checking in on me. Just checked out your story. What has helped me the most is reflecting on where I can change and what I control. Was I happy? If not, what do I want to be happy. Creating those "must haves" and "nevers" helped me let go of my H reactions. I spent a ton of time reading blogs and articles in affairs, EAs, falling out of love and working to be back in love. They all helped me own what I had done in the relationship to get us into trouble. I can only fix my own errors not his.
This mess has made me realize I didn't like the person I had become. This unhappy, angry version of me was showing up at work and home. I don't want to be like that. I want to be happy and enjoy life again. Now I do things that bring more happiness to me.
Take care.
M:34 H:34 S:4 I love you's:2004 Married: 2008 BD: March 2015 EA revealed: May 2015
