Thanks Pink. I really appreciate your positive thoughts I think your right that this is about more than OM I Had a word with EXW a few minutes ago about the money issue and she got very upset and said I was making her feel worse and she wishes she hadn't told me I explained that I understood she was in a bad ace and I was t judging her but concern that she wasn't realising the consequences of her actions if it came out. She was a bit calmer but was crying saying she would never do it again. It was only a very small amount of money and I believe she won't do it again.
I did as you suggested Pink and told her I was here for her and I was worried about her actions and that she was making choices that maybe wernt the always the best for her She agreed and said she knew that she wasn't thinking straight sometimes
She then told me she was trying to find herself and that she hadn't found whatever that was and she wasn't sure she ever would. She ten started to say that she wished she had realised earlier that she was unhappy and wished i t hadn't got to this stage She said she was 48 years old and didn't see much of a future
I said perhaps she needed help from an I/C to see what she wanted from life to which she said maybe. She then told me that she was very unhappy and felt she was being a very bad mother and she needed to help pay for the kids upbringing I told her that was for future and to worry about herself
I realise that I may need 2 x 4s however I have accepted that the M is over so I don't need to worry about pursuing.
EXW then asked me if I was happy. I said I was ok and just focused on the kids at the moment. She said she wasn't really happy and started crying. I said that if she wasn't happy she needed to remove the unhappy things in her life. EXW said do you mean my friends ? I said yes. She then said she felt she was help her friends as they needed help. We both new we were talking about OM. She said OM was just a friend and nothing more. I told her it wasn't my business and did not want to know anything about her friends
EXW then went on t say if she was still at home she could have used her wages as a holiday fund and we could have had two or three holidays a year She went on to say if I had helped out with the kids a few times when they were younger It would have made all the difference I just validated
EXW went to say L/C told her she needed to hit rock bottom to see how she felt and some people need to do that. Again I just validated
i felt that EXW actually listened to my opinion today. I'm not saying she agreed but she did listen I hope for her sake she is coming out of the fog and she can find happiness again
