Hey 76! Regarding the 37 rules... you should follow them all!
Some might need to be slightly adjusted depending on your situation but the rules work. Even if they don't make your W fall head over heels in love with you again, they will bring you sanity and self-esteem.
No snooping, no following around like a puppy, no texting all the time. Think about it, you said yourself she is more affectionate when you have a fight or when she thinks she might lose you. Do you want her to be more affectionate or less? Then make her wonder if her behavior has pissed you off!
Hasn't it?
It should have!!!
She should worry that what she has done will make you leave her. And she should do everything she can to make sure you don't. It doesn't sound like she is in that place yet. So you need to back off. Like I said before, focus on yourself - not on her. Stop following her around and trying to create intimacy. Back off and do your own thing. Go out with friends after work or go to the gym. Don't text with her all day long. Be busy. Don't be rude but don't be so available. Get a life.
Don't be too eager to share how much you love and adore her and want to be intimate with her. Yes, that is good for your wife to know, generally speaking. But at this time she needs her space to realize that she does want you in her life. If you are smothering her with love she won't realize it.
Read the threads of others. Try Mozza, he has links to success stories. See what other people have experienced and read the advice given to them.
Good luck 76!
Me: 34 H: 30 M: 4 years BD: 6/15/14 He moved out 6/30/14 OW1: EA then PA after BD Now he's dating multiple OWs I'm over it and moving on.
