Sorry, but I'm just getting caught up. You probably have already dealt with the counseling issue, but you might consider this little surprise: "That's fine. Do you mind if I go by myself? I think there are some things I could work through."
I'm glad you're working on being more positive. I think my H and I have decided that I'll be the positive one and he'll be the negative one and that's what we do. It does help that every once in a while he tells me that it bothers him that he's so negative. At least I know that he knows. Might want to think about sharing that with your W too, if you haven't already.
