Stay the course. Hopefully once all of the loose ends are tied up over the keyed car and the verbal abuse in front of your kids, things will settle down.

Your kids will eventually see him for what he is. It all takes time and you know what? At the end of the day, they will come to understand who was there for them. You are the one that stayed and fought the battle to try to save your marriage and you certainly weren't the one that ran away and tried to avoid your responsibilities. Right now, he's playing the victim role, but soon...it will get old.

Please take care of yourself. Watch your back and hopefully all of this will die down soon. Again, I am so sorry that this is still going on. Hopefully, he'll go away and stay away for a long time.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.