Agree, it's not reconciliation. So do I continue doing DR, LRT, 180? What do I tell him when now he constantly says he wants to save the M? That I'm not going to believe him until I see action?
If he brings it up, then you can have this thoughtful look on your face and calmly state that "it's not that simple anymore. There's been a ton of damage and you (H) need to put real, genuine effort to earn back my trust. We need to go slow here and there will be a long road ahead of us."
Keep going with your DBing efforts....don't lose your focus.
