I love my new job, but given it is year 1 and the Board hired me to replace the founder (who is still working here), it has had many challenges. We are a small non-profit (94 students) so that is hard too. But I love my work now and you are right that it makes a difference!
A big part of my personal dissatisfaction that impacted my marriage was with my job and not doing meaningful work. In my mind, taking this job would fix a lot of that, but it ended up just further hurting my marriage. He resents the pay cut and the hours (as if corporate America required less hours - I have gotten the "all I care about is work" story for so much of our marriage since he was working less and had his own void to fill. But I would rather be satisfied in my 50 hours a week instead of empty any day. I wish I didn't have to have my work life and personal life all going at least decently to function in the other!
I do have to say that I have barely survived for the last month - budget needs to be done, hiring needs to be completed, reviews, etc. and I just keep dropping the ball. Not at all like me and I don't know how to keep everything afloat. But detachment is helping and slowly I am becoming more productive. I don't know it if was on your thread or another, but make that list and set your expectations low for what you cross off, but let it guide you to at least focus intermittmently. It builds our confidence and provides a distraction whenever our mind is able to be distracted (if even for only 15 minutes at a pop).
Yes there is an OW involved and my H is in love for sure. It is like crack and kills me to see him text "I love you!" to her and not even be able to say it or write it to me - the mother of his beloved son. The OW was actually married to a W previously and was abandoned by her a year or two ago which my H used to justify that there was nothing going on. I seems she has changed her tune. And he won't give her up, so I am having to just wait. It has been two months. He "lost" his wedding ring about 3 days after they had some really intimate "ah ha" connection experience the day before or of our S's birthday. Messy. All really messy.
We are a small non-profit (94 students) so that is hard too. But I love my work now and you are right that it makes a difference!