Thought I'd get my story out there. My H is in mlc. No sign of affair yet, but I don't snoop and he's out nearly every night until 2am so it's certainly a possibility. I've just decided that there's nothing I could do to stop it and it may happen so I'm trying to be prepared if I ever stumble onto something. I know that an A has it's own innate consequences so if it happens, it will have to be what it is.
My biggest issue right now is that H has taken control of all our finances. I have a chronic illness so I don't work. He's always supported this and we don't need the extra money. But, he's got everything hidden in a secret account. So far I've just groveled for everything I need and he gives me the exact amount for groceries or medical bills for the kids or whatever. If this is mlc and will continue for years, it could get hairy. Not sure what kind of plan I should make for my finances.
Right now I'm just putting up with it and seeing if things change but it does really upset me cuz it's my money too.
Input would be helpful. Thanks!
***** M: 16 y Three adult kids, 2 younger kids Still living together He filed for D May '15, I havent been served yet
M: 16y 3 adult kids, 2 young kids H filed D May/15, no svc yet Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends? ~ Abe Lincoln WAKE UP. WORK HARD. FORGIVE. REPEAT.
