One thing that has helped me a lot when I get upset H does not spend time with the kids....I keep a calendar of the time he spends with them. If you track the times she doesn't show up to events, doesn't want to bother to go to something, asks you to take the kids when it was her time with them...,etc....all of that is useful to the court to see how involved your W chooses to be when she has full freedom to take as much time and involvement as she wants.
Hopefully this won't lead to full D for either of us, but, in the short term, it helps me keep from getting upset. Cuz, honestly, I get so hurt that if he wants to take the kids somewhere I'm upset he's taking them from me and if he leaves them with me I'm upset he's choosing not to spend time with them. I'm obviously being irrational right now about this. The calendar helps.
M: 16y 3 adult kids, 2 young kids H filed D May/15, no svc yet Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends? ~ Abe Lincoln WAKE UP. WORK HARD. FORGIVE. REPEAT.
