Heavy, I'm still reading through your whole story, I'm up to mid-March. So far it really sounds like mlc to me, though I am a complete non-expert. The good news I'm trying to tell myself is that the more crazy I hear from my H, the more likely this is mlc that means sometime there will be at least a partial recovery.
Also trying to see for myself how many things I used to over-react to and be very upset about that now, just a few months later, I can calmly accept as a new reality. I see growth in you too from your first posts to where I am in your story. We're new to this, you and I, and we will heal little pieces at a time. We will vent to our friends here and not to our spouses. And we will count our many blessings that if a relationship challenge is the worst thing that ever happens to us, then we both won the Life Lottery, cuz thank heavens our children are healthy. Hope that does not sound patronizing....it's the peptalk I give myself and it seems to help me. I can get overwhelmed with pessimism when I don't see solutions.
Hugs!
M: 16y 3 adult kids, 2 young kids H filed D May/15, no svc yet Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends? ~ Abe Lincoln WAKE UP. WORK HARD. FORGIVE. REPEAT.
So far it really sounds like mlc to me, though I am a complete non-expert. The good news I'm trying to tell myself is that the more crazy I hear from my H, the more likely this is mlc that means sometime there will be at least a partial recovery.