Zephyr, I so wish I could give you a real hug. You are doing very well with everything. Whenever there's a change in your life, you are going to start looking at all of your changes which then drives up the anxiety. It's okay to feel bad. It's okay to be sad....just not around her.
I totally agree with Ripken that it has to be incredibly hard with her in the same bed with you. I would be up half the night to. Just tell yourself, "I can be uncomfortable and survive; I've been uncomfortable before and survived."
I am so glad the grounding exercises are working. Remember to practice them when you are not anxious too so that they become easy when you are stressed.
M 46 / H 43 T 24/M 18 S 4 11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY 1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom 1/8/2016 H moved out