Originally Posted By: BW05
I have started to realize a great deal of my unhappiness was brought on by myself. In my M, I forgot to make myself a priority. Instead I focused too much on helping make my H's dream (school) a reality. Especially given what is going on now, for what?! Quite frankly, I think it was just an excuse though. It is scary to have to look at yourself and your own dreams and how to make it all a reality. Much easier to focus energy on others.

My goals for next three months:

-- Lose an additional 18 lbs by end of summer. I have already lost around 25.
-- Take do a creative class-art, graphic design, photography, etc.
-- Make some new friends and try some new Meetup groups.
-- Work on figuring out next career move. I am in a bit of a transition spot.
-- Get out and enjoy the summer with some weekend trips with friends.

Overall, figure out what happened to the fun and lively person my H married. Sad part is that I have a hard time remembering who that person was.


Great goals BW! 25 pounds is fare amount of weight, be proud of yourself. Career moves are tough with everything going on, I'm playing with them myself. Lots of transition.

Sounds like you've got a really positive outlook for the summer, and will truly be taking care of yourself. Good on you.


M 39 W 36
T5 M3
BD - 1/15 Separated - Same Day
Served 9/15
D finalized 6/17