There's a lot of gray area in between "daily, make-you-nuts spying" and "flying blind without instruments."
Starsky, I think I will move forward with once a month strategy because last time I checked, I was distracted all day in the "make-you-nuts" vein. I think I will wait some more to check because I haven't had any breakthroughs with STBX in a while.
Sandi, Thanks for stopping by my thread. I had hoped you would visit again because I know you have a invaluable perspective. I'm curious what you think the proper response to a wayward initiating physical contact, say a hug, should be.
Ripken, I think you're right on letting STBX come to me. I just worry that I might be too dense and methodical to miss my opportunity. Of course, I think its foolhardy to think that there will suddenly be that magical. a-ha moment.
NDY, Hijack away. The vets are here for the betterment of all.
Journaling: Another great day. Work was relatively straight forward. Got home and went for a jog. Then I did some serious gardening on the patio, with the goal of clearing out some space for a butterfly garden for D4. Then, I headed out to do some shopping and errands.
STBX did send me two texts today.
W:I'm really missing you. W:I was telling the (funny story of mine) story today. It made me smile.
I didn't reply. I did text to talk with kids a few hours later. STBX said she was at a work conference and to call MIL, who was with the kids. So I did.
I'm starting to think about my next in person interaction with STBX for Thursday. I'm a little anxious because Thursday is my birthday and I'm afraid STBX could get emotional when dropping off the kids that night. Just wondering what the appropriate response might be.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
