Yesterday I was feeling kind of down. Today I am much better! I suppose that this will be how it is for awhile. Ups and downs.

I did read a post on a different forum that really put things in perspective for me. It was about detaching! This is what I feel like after reading it.

I know I have not been a perfect husband, but I was always faithful. I chose to stay in the marriage through our tough times. I chose to remain faithful and not seek attention elsewhere. I also would try to talk through our issues.

We each make our own choices. It was WW choice to not stay and work on M. It was WW choice to lie to me. It was WW choice to lie about job and keep pursuing job. It was WW choice to hide all these things from family. It was WW choice to leave instead of staying and working on fixing things. It was WW choice to do that type of work.

It is my choice to not be in a marriage full of lies. It is my choice to not be in a marriage with a partner involved in the sex industry. It is my choice to work on my own issues and move on with my life.

I have been blaming myself for the past few days. I have been kinda hard on myself. After reading that post and just thinking about the truth in it, it made me feel better. We all make choices and have to live with the consequences. I choose to not lie to my S. I choose not to cheat. I choose to be loyal, respectful and supportive. I choose to care.

I read on another post on here about exposing the affair. Big debate! To me what my WW is doing is like an affair. Although there is no physical contact, she is sharing things that are for the H only. Since she has decided to move away and I have filed for legal separation, lawyer said her type of work will be exposed. Again, her choice! She could have never done the job or stopped the first time I said I was not comfortable with it.

One other thing that I have noticed by reading posts for the past few days, there are mostly men posting on here about their wives having affairs or leaving them?

Last edited by Joe46; 06/02/15 10:43 PM.

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