If the W is wayward (keyword), she's not going to be interested in listening to the H talk about his feelings. If you see this as enticing her, I think you will be disappointed in the outcome, (if you try to entice by expressing your feelings while she's wayward). A lot of men have tried the talking approach and failed, b/c she was not ready.
But traditional methods are of gaining attraction are off limits, right? I don't talk about my 'feelings' to my WW although I'm pretty sure she knows. So the only option is detach? Ok, so let's say we are detached. At least to a point. Then what?
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
