Glad to hear your family is doing well. I'm also glad that OS is safe. Another crush on D. Either her or YS. I don't remember getting that much attention when I was young.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Yeah, I lurk every now and then. Not much to post though. W and I are still going to counseling...still living under the same roof and actually getting along OK.
Not all sunshine and roses, really kind of frustrating most of the time, but we are both trying to figure this out.
Been following your posts Hon and I'm glad things are going well. You've always been squared away.
In one sense, not much is happening on the home front, which is probably a good thing. No major blow ups or R talks. On the other hand, that is a good thing. W and I are spending a lot of time together. We go out to dinner a couple of times a week and yesterday night we went to see "The Incredibles" (great movie BTW. I told her I liked it better than "Finding Nemo" and she looked at me like I had blasphemed or something..W loves that movie...as do a few people on this board I've noticed.)
We are having fun together again. Of course, that means that I go shopping a lot with her. That's her favorite thing to do. She shops, I buy it...and if I'm good, we stop for coffee or dinner while we are out. The other night we stopped at a bar (I'm working on her...she actually drank a whole two beers!) Anyway, they were doing Karaoke and W seemed to think that was neat. She asked if we could sit on the bar side and watch the singers. One came up that was really bad. W started giggling, then the waitress came up and saw W trying to hide her amusement and said "It's OK Honey, go ahead and laugh." W just cracked up. Haven't seen her laugh that hard in a long time.
She still suffers from the ups and downs of depression sometimes and it tears me up. It disappears long enough for me to let my guard down then it resurfaces and throws us both for a loop. But I can see she's fighting it.
Like yesterday, I called her in the afternoon and all was well. Then called on my way home to see if she wanted to go out tonight and she was in tears about nothing at all. But she seemed to perk up at the suggestion of getting out of the house and she seemed fine by the time I got home. Talk about a rollercoaster of emotions!
The weather doesn't help either..been raining and kind of dreary the past couple of days. I've noticed a strong correlation between her mood and sunlight...with winter coming again, I worry.
But she's looking for a job and I think that will help. Gives her something to get up for in the morning and people to talk to. She's always been a social animal.
Quote: The weather doesn't help either..been raining and kind of dreary the past couple of days. I've noticed a strong correlation between her mood and sunlight...with winter coming again, I worry.
You can buy these "alarm clocks" that are dawn simulators with bright light - actually a form of light therapy, like the use for seasonal affective disorder (but W wouldn't have to know that)
Karaoke soundsfun - maybe you need to get her up onstage?
LOL. Don't let it go to your head now! We were up in D.C. last weekend.
Things sound much better between you and your W. Slow I know, but much better than where you were last Summer when you went to that first C appointment. That's great!
There is another person on this bb, a good friend, who suffers from that winter depression stuff. Can't remember what it is called, but it is a real disease from what I understand. I'll shoot her a note if you like and see if she can give you any input about it. Maybe she can offer some tips.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Well it's been snowing pretty hard all day here. First snow of the season. Got a long weekend and just W and I at home to celebrate the holiday. We'll see how that goes.
Hope everyone out there has fun this weekend and can detach enough to enjoy the holiday.
Happy Thanksgiving to everyone! Here's wishing you all the best.
